I went to the eye specialist a while ago and came out with a clean bill of health and a new prescription for glasses to take care of the inevitable effects of “Mother Nature and Father Time”, as my ophthalmologist is so fond of saying. The good news is, I can see much better than before.
The bad news is …
I can see much better than before. With my old glasses, I could fool myself into believing that the ravages of time had left me unaffected, relative to my peers. They were showing their age. My reflection, on the other hand, showed less evidence of it. And, in my vanity, I was rather proud of how I had been able to preserve my youthful look.
Uh-huh. The application of new eyewear gave me cause to pause as I looked into my usually friendly make-up mirror and saw my face, warts and all. Well, okay, I didn’t see any warts. What I did see was a long white hair growing out of my chin. It had smaller companions sticking defiantly and coarsely out of a variety of other areas of my face too. There were little blue and plum coloured veins spidering their way over my cheeks, heading for a nose that contained cavernous, moon-cratered pores. And the lines on my forehead and around my eyes resembled cracked earth at five thousand feet.
This new knowledge of myself compelled me to rethink my perspective as a “person of youth” and to dive for my tweezers and cover-up make-up with renewed fervor. And, more seriously, (or perhaps desperately), it has obliged me to look differently upon the whole notion of what constitutes a youthful woman. Thinking more deeply about it, I recall having met some very young eighty-year-old women and some very old thirty-year-old women as well.
It really comes down to attitude.
In a youthful eighty year old, it is not difficult to look past the creases, blotches and saggy bits that typically adorn their faces, and notice the aliveness in their eyes; the curiosity they show about things and people; and the energy they put into every day. It is this aliveness that makes them compelling and attractive. Young, old people are always learning. They are not content to sit on the sidelines of life simply because their bodies are in decline. They get on with their lives and inject into them the balm of good humour and the gracious resignation that allows them to look in the mirror and see more than the spectre of the grim reaper looking back at them. They accept themselves, as is, without regret and I would guess that those close to them love and admire them all the more for it.
Maybe for me, there will always be some measure of vanity but I’d like to think that as I age, I’ll also be lucky enough, and wise enough, to retain an aura of youth simply by being less interested in me and more interested in the people and things around me.
What do you think?Gwyn Teatro
Found that interesting?
Learn more about our services
Make your dreams a reality with a professional evaluation of your career to date.
The evidence is in. More women in your company can deliver 35% greater financial returns. (Catalyst)
Dates for the Diary
JUNE 6-8TH 2019 - OMBUDSPERON EUROPEAN WOMEN’S LOBBY BRUSSELS
Download and listen free podcasts
How to Create an Effective USP What is a USP? Our Unique Selling Point or UVP (Unique Value Proposition) is our key core message about where...read more
How to Rethink the Modern Workplace for Gender Equality New research shows that diversity and inclusion is a top priority for leaders. So why...read more
Menopause in the workplace In this podcast with Nicki Williams award winning author, keynote speaker and Founder of Happy Hormones for Life,...read more
How to Cultivate Empathy in the Workplace Nancy Milton, international business communications expert, keynote speaker and author, share some vital...read more
Taking Care of your COW Tanvi Guatam, international Personal Branding expert says there is a misconception out there that a personal brand is...read more
The importance of Hard Talk Dawn Metcalfe, author of Managing the Matrix and Hard Talk, shares with us tips to achieve the lasting communication...read more
When Does Female Rivalry Turn into Sabotage There’s a lot of stuff written on social media about female rivalry and competition between women. Some...read more
Goal setting tips to boost your career The happiest people are those that really love their jobs. Those that don’t, dread Sunday nights and...read more
Sexism: How to stage a Bystander Intervention in the Workplace In this power coaching podcast, we're going to tackle one of the questions...read more
How to Get Noticed by Head Hunters & Recruiters In this power coaching podcast, we're going to tackle one of the questions asked multiple...read more
The dangers of long term unemployment for women are different to the problems that men could face. We need to take a look at what the problems are, and how we can best handle them.read more
AI branding is sexist, as it is designed through a sexist lens. But why is this a problem for the real world?read more
If we rename soft skills as essential skills, will people finally give them the recognition they deserve?read more