Have you ever overheard your children playing, heard something that you didn’t like the sound of and then realised why. They were just mimicking you!!
“Really, I sound that bad / negative / aggressive / inflexible / grumpy / rude etc?!”
A constant frustration (among others) for Kate and I last year was the mess the kids were making around the house. Until that is, that we realised that we were leaving our paperwork, opened mail, half finished jobs and junk on the dining table, leaving shoes all around the house and clothes hanging on the exercise bike, to name a few.
Our New Focus
I’m happy to report that a new year has brought a new focus and a significantly more tidy house as we have been setting an example by putting things away and keeping the house (mostly) tidy. And over a 4-5 week period, the kids have followed suit. AND sometimes that is all it takes, change your own behaviour first.
Practise What We Preach
Another classic at our place was yelling across the house. “Stop yelling, please come and talk to me!” – I said that over and over again until I realised I was regularly doing the same thing. How can we expect our children to behave in a certain way if we can’t be depended upon to practise what we preach?!
So have a think about the frustrations you have with your children – are they merely copying what they see from you? Are they raising their voice, sounding frustrated, being messy, impatient, too competitive, etc?
Things WILL get better when YOU get better.
Start with one thing. What are you going to commit to change about yourself today to be the amazing role models to your children that you know you can be?
Original post from Inspired Dads 8th March 2015