Why Trump’s sexism demeans men

by | Oct 16, 2016

How Trump's sexism affects men too

Trump's sexism
I’ve seen many comments from high profile men protesting about Trump’s sexism. Some have been moved to extreme action because of the implications that this has for the women in their lives: grand-daughters, daughters, mothers, wives and sisters. [Tweet "But Trump’s sexism doesn’t just demean the women of the world, it degrades men too."]
There is a backlash from some quarters against the reactions of these men suggesting they are just another form of paternalism, embedding patriarchy further into our cultures. "We are people," these women claim and should not be defined by our relationship with men. This is true.

Trump's sexism

Trump's sexism isn't a surprise anymore

In more evangelical or other religious communities where patriarchy is firmly established, and is the norm.  However, even strict Mormon leaders are making the first move. But if men are prompted to reject Trump’s sexism (or any other kind) for any reason, then this has to be a step in the right direction. It’s better than no step at all.
[Tweet "His sexism, which is so lewd and overt, has been too shocking to ignore."]

Trump's sexism disguised as locker room talk

The locker room talk and what happens when guys apaprently get together has reached new lows.  Trump's male supporters, whether it’s his son or Nigel Farage, indulging the “boys will be boys,” alpha male behaviour is sheer nonsense. At the time Trump was in his late 50s, which is pretty gross. His "boy" days were long over.

Now I’ve never been in a male locker room personally. I am reliably informed that the conversation tends to focus on dissecting the game, self-congratulation or commiseration and party plans for the night ahead. One ex-football player told me

"there might be some “wishful thinking talkwhen you are in high school, which can at times could be considered inappropriate."  

But all men I have asked, have emphatically denied that any talk condoning sexual assault ever takes place. Even high schoolers have objected. Many successful athletes, that is to say real atheletes, who actually go into locker rooms, have also come forward to say this is simply not the case. They call it "trash talk." They also say that any inappropriate remarks especially about a team-mate's female family members, are likely to get the commentator a black eye.

[Tweet "The fact is that Trump probably spends more time in the hairdressers than in any locker room."] He was also not in a locker room when he made these comments, but in a professional setting.

TRump's sexism

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Women who condone him

There are some women who still continue to actively support him, which is beyond comprehension.  It is even worse when women condone Trump’s sexism in an indulgent passive way and fail to speak up. What are they thinking? One of the threads in many comments is that we that we live in a culture where pornography is widespread, pop lyrics are risqué and Fifty Shades of Grey is a best seller. Therefore we already tolerate aggressive, sexist behavior. Really? That makes it OK? The key commonality in these assertions is that this sexual activity referenced in these arenas, whether you approve of it or not, is not forced on anyone!

Even in the the Christian Grey trilogy, the sexual relationship is consensual.  There is a contract! The heroine can terminate it at any time and use safe words to stop any further sexual activity. The idea of their being any parallels was trounced by its author EL James. Trump on the other hand just goes straight for the woman’s genitals, with [Tweet "no contract in sight or safe word to be heard."]

Trump’s sexism sends out a message to everyone that it is OK to talk about men forcing themselves on women. It is absolutely not OK.

Tom Hanks says it well. "I am not offended as a husband or a father. I am offended as a man."

 Michelle Obama asks:

"And how is this affecting men and boys in this country? Because I can tell you that the men in my life do not talk about women like this. And I know that my family is not unusual. And to dismiss this as everyday locker-room talk is an insult to decent men everywhere."

[Tweet "Trump does an equal disservice to our brothers, husbands, fathers, sons and grandsons"] and any other man in our lives.  Men and women equally need to make a stand.  It is the role of all people to protect their nearest and dearest from this type of degrading behaviour.
Women regardless of their relationship too should  step up to protect their family members, whether male or female, from Trump's sexism. We all need to especially protect our sons and granddons, who are getting a message that sexism is acceptable.

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