Alphabet for the Professional Woman: Acceptance

by May 8, 20143Plus, 3Plus online e-Gazine for professional women, Anita's Adventures

A to Z guide for professional woman

The ABC’s of life describe our journey and as a professional woman, the alphabet is diverse.

This is the first in a series of posts that cover the whole alphabet of what the professional woman needs to know and do.

As a professional woman, I sometimes feel defeated. As if I couldn’t get ahead. But in a true awakening, I realized that I’ve  made it. I made it to the other side, across the tumultuous bridge of divorce.

A speaking engagement in front of 400+ people nailed the thought in my head, that I HAVE MADE IT. The outpouring of support, the comments, and the accolades of praise were overwhelming. For years I was just trudging along taking it one day at a time but standing in front of that podium looking into the crowd….

I had a moment

Can I mention once again that I made it? I used to wish I could sleep through those years. I wanted to wake 5 years later so I could avoid all the bumps and the heartache. But if I had, then I wouldn’t know this level of bliss. Experiencing the bad has made the good shine through me.

The person who spoke to those people on that day, was a professional woman who battled her inner demons that arrive when you’ve been dumped. Yup, I said it, I was dumped. I was dumped for another woman but I’m not mad, not resentful, not really anything, anymore. Oh, I was mad for a good length of time. I was so mad that a friend told me that I was unapproachable. Wow. What an eye opener.

Happiness is a choice

For a long time now, I’ve embraced the concept of being happy.  In the beginning, when my husband first left, each night when I laid my head on my pillow, I prayed for one thing: happiness.

Every.  Single.  Night.

I prayed for happiness

I prayed after I wiped the tears from the eyes of my two youngest children, and after long talks with my oldest child. After many exhausting days, I’d crawl into bed and pray. I guess one could say that my prayers have been answered because I found happiness on this journey. I found it in my children. I found it in my career as a professional woman, a nurse. I found it as a fitness mentor and I found it in the miles I’ve run on those long winding roads. I found it in ME. Who could ask for more than that?

And we all know what happens when you’re happy, right? Well, it’s quite simple really; everything just falls into place. Opportunities come to you. Doors open. People enter your life. Love comes your way. This concept is amazing and powerful. Gosh, if I had just one thing to choose in life, happiness would be it for me.

I’m tired of wanting and waiting for something, such as love, to come my way. From now on I’m going live each moment for what it is, a time to enjoy the company of whomever I’m with. No longer am I going to live in a pathetic frame of mind. With just a little switch in my brain, I’m going to embrace my life for what it is: acceptance in knowing that what I have and who I am are pretty cool things.

Amen to acceptance Anita, amen.

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Anita, is a Registered Nurse, divorced Mom of three, runner, triathlete, and online fitness consultant. In her post marriage recovery journal, she chronicles daunting balancing acts, her leap into the dating world, pole dancing lessons in which she learns to ‘let go’, and the discovery of her Self. Excerpts from her forthcoming book appear in this column.

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