family matters

This is the sixth in a series of posts of the alphabet connecting the professional woman to life outside of the J.O.B.


They matter. They matter more then we know and even more as we age. Without the support of family, I’m not sure I could’ve made it all these years through many trips to the doctors with the little ones,  juggling family needs while working overnight nursing shifts, being tired and wanting the best for all of us. I’m not sure, when divorce entered my life’s path, that I would’ve made it without the support of my parents and siblings. I’m not sure, really I’m not. But, I am sure that I am here now, strong and fulfilled ~ happy.

Family Matters.

My children are the center of my universe and when I see them in love with each other, my heart explodes with an abundance of joy.  Oddly enough, my divorce strengthened the bond between my children and me. Some people are very surprised to find out that we are a broken home. I suppose that’s good, right? I mean for my children, anyway. It means that their home life has remained solid enough to build a good foundation as they grow into young adults.

Sadly, my bubble was burst  a little over the weekend when my youngest daughter was sharing a cup of woe with me and my oldest daughter. She talked of the trouble she’s having with a new boy in her life. And as she shared her story, she mentioned that she didn’t have much luck with relationships because she doesn’t have a good one as a role model (aka, her parents). Ah, and here’s where I’ve failed them. I haven’t been able to provide them with a loving connection that they can emulate ~ I’ll put that on my bucket list for the future.

Family and home, my children’s universe.

When it comes to a career and family the two must fit together like a puzzle. When my children were smaller, I ran my home like a drill sergeant. I had to, I was working nights (7pm-7am) and sleeping during the day. I had twins in diapers and was doing homework with a 5 yr old. Even the laundry was on a schedule. We ate, slept and played by the clock…for a while. Then when everyone could use the bathroom on their own and put on their own shoes, life got a little bit easier.

Aging and parents.

I still go to my parents for advice, even at my age. They’re a good sounding board for me when I need to mull things over. When tragedy enters, we come together like a storm, my parents the thunder, my siblings the lightning, my children, the rain washing away the bad and bringing out the good. We hold each others hands and hearts in times of strife. So how does this relate to a woman who has a career? Because family is the foundation that we build our hopes and dreams upon. Family, comes together in good times and in bad. They are the pillar.


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Anita, is a Registered Nurse, divorced Mom of three, runner, triathlete, and online fitness consultant. In her post marriage recovery journal, she chronicles daunting balancing acts, her leap into the dating world, pole dancing lessons in which she learns to ‘let go’, and the discovery of her Self. Excerpts from her forthcoming book appear in this column.

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