How do you deal with challenges?
How we look at challenges or perceive the things that hold us back, is important to achieving our potential, enjoying fulfilling relationships and living a life that has greater meaning. This will help us have the success we deserve, however we may define that.
Here are 10 tips to help you change your attitude to challenges
1. Ban the excuses
We create barriers as a firewall to protect ourselves. Sometimes it’s easier to make an excuse for not doing something or staying stuck, because we fear failure or embarrassment if we don’t succeed. But it’s the getting up from failed challenges that is more important and how we deal with them, than the perceived failure. So if you hear yourself making excuses – banish them. They have no place in your life.
2. Think positive
The biggest factor in determining whether or not you will succeed is your attitude. Positive people see challenges as opportunities, not paths to failure. Develop a positive mind-set.
3. Identify self-limiting beliefs
Gaining an understanding of when we are subconsciously holding ourselves back isn’t easy. It requires masses of insight and self-awareness. If you are stuck in a rut take time out to examine patterns of behaviour. If you see the same excuses e.g. lack of time or energy, or the same situations e.g. completing a report, or making a presentation, you should ask yourself if this is an avoidance technique. If you can’t change your responses – get a coach.
Attend the 3Plus Mini-Coaching session How to Overcome Self Limiting Beliefs as a first step. Tuesday April 14th – free for first time participants
4. Decide to move forward
Barriers become challenges and opportunities for strong people. How you approach them will be a key factor in where you go and what you achieve in your life. resistance to change will only serve to keep you stuck. Make a commitment to move forwards not backwards.
5. Articulate your successes
Understanding and being able to articulate your success stories is critical to realising your dreams. If you don’t know what you are good at, who else will? Having a powerful, impactful message is important to have the presence you need to be successful.
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6. Congratulate yourself
Many people don’t take time out to appreciate themselves. Make a note of when you have an achievement and when you do, give yourself a gold star! When you have five, reward yourself. It might be with a Belgian chocolate, a walk in the country, or a cup of great coffee on your terrace or a park bench. Whatever it is that makes you feel special. Take care of YOU!
7. Get comfortable with the right type of discomfort
Growth takes place outside your comfort zone. Have the courage to take some risks. Stretch yourself , even if it means feeling uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable through risk taking is far better long-term than discomfort from back pain, migraines, stress or medication side effects. Some kinds of discomfort are good. Others are unhealthy.
8. Invest in yourself
Many people when faced with a challenge, quit. They feel overwhelmed and over powered. But the more time, energy, and even money we spend learning skills to deal with these challenges, will pay dividends in the future. Take classes, hire a coach or attend a webinar. There are many resources to help you fill any gaps you need to address the challenges in your life.
9. Value your mistakes
Pain isn’t anyone’s first choice. But it is a pertinent reminder that something has to change. So turn off the negative mental tapes that beat you up and grind you down. Learn from the mistakes you have made. Make sure those mistakes serve you well and learn from them. In ways you never realise, mistakes add value.
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10. Trust yourself
The more confidence you have in yourself to make the right decisions and to trust your instincts and your skills, the more self reliant you will become. The stronger your self reliance, the greater your confidence.
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