How Being Impulsive Can Change your Life for the Better
Follow your impulses to avoid regret
Being impulsive isn’t intrinsically bad and in fact, can transform your life and relationships in positive and meaningful ways.
As we grow up, we’re taught, “Don’t act impulsively! Think things through before you do something you’ll regret!” That’s not always good advice.
Instead of avoiding things we might regret when acting on impulse, what about regretting the things that never happened because we ignored the impulse?
Don’t get me wrong, being impulsive can get you in a load of trouble and into bad situations, but I want you to consider that impulsivity can also make your life good.
I’ve always wanted to go to Japan, but the flights from my tiny town are outrageously expensive. Every once in a while I researched the price of flights and four things quickly happened:
1) I had the impulse to research flights.
2) The cost was high, and I told myself we couldn’t do it.
3) My story changed, and I began to focus on all of the reasons not to go.
4) Staying put and holding on to our money made more sense than ever.
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Impulse >>> Rationalization >>> Inaction
Lucky for my family there was one time I did something unexpected… I pulled out my credit card and booked the flight. I didn’t bookmark the flight or think about it endlessly or share all of the costs and pros and cons with my husband so he could weigh in. Non-refundable and paid, we went to Tokyo and Kyoto in October 2015 and it was amazing.
The impulse-rationalization-inaction cycle happens countless times a day for all of us. Going to the gym, cleaning the house, writing a book – you name it, you’re probably great at talking yourself out of it.
The Desire – Impulse – Rationalization – Inaction Cycle
Desire: I want to get in better shape.
Impulse: I should go to the gym now before the day gets away from me.
Rationalization: I need to crank out a few things for work first. After all, it’s how I pay the bills.
Inaction: At the end of the day I’m tired. Maybe I’ll get going tomorrow… Let’s turn on the TV and open the chips. It always helps me to unwind.
Desire: I like a clean kitchen; an organized house.
Impulse: I should clean up the kitchen after my child baked brownies.
Rationalization: Wait. Why am I cleaning up their mess? What lousy kids I have.
Inaction: I don’t clean. The kitchen deteriorates, and so does my mood.
Desire: I want to get promoted.
Impulse: I need to talk to my boss about my career path.
Rationalization: She’s busy. What if she thinks I’m ridiculous? I don’t want her to think I’m a demanding pain.
Inaction: I’ll have a meeting with her in three months anyway for my annual review… In the meantime, someone else on the team gets opportunities because nobody knows I’m interested.
Desire: I want to support my friend who wrote a book.
Impulse: I should buy it now. Help publicize it.
Rationalization: I’m busy. I can buy it on Amazon anytime. It doesn’t really matter if it’s their launch week. Besides, I’m too busy publicizing my own work. I’ll just congratulate them on Facebook. They’ll never know if it’s on my bookshelf.
Inaction: I forget to buy it at all.
How being impulsive can change your life for the better?
1) Differentiate between LOVING or GIVING or DREAM MAKING impulses and EMOTIONAL impulses.
When we take action on impulses that help others, make our dreams take shape or change our lives for the better… good things are in motion.
When we are caught up in an emotional frenzy, usually in an argument or another conflict, our impulse can lead us astray and leave more pain or damage in our wake.
This is not ALWAYS advice, as in, ALWAYS follow your impulse. Instead, notice the heart of your impulse and where it is pointing you.
2) Notice when you shift into rationalization mode.
All change starts with awareness, not only of your desire and impulses, but also your rationalizations (hello, excuses!) too. Don’t be so quick to talk yourself out of taking action that helps you and others.
3) Your impulses are like whispers in your ear about your hopes, dreams, and values.
Imagine that fleeting impulse to clean up the kitchen after your child baked brownies. You value a clean home; you love your child, and you want to be helpful… there are a million reasons to honor that impulse, but most people don’t. They choose to get frustrated and angry that the other person didn’t have the impulse to clean up after themselves.
Listen to your whispers before shifting gears into blame and anger.
If you have not already, I strongly encourage you to read Leadership and Self Deception by Arbinger. As Arbinger reminds us, every choice you make, every impulse you ignore or honor is either moving you closer to having a heart at peace or a heart at war. What do you choose?
Say “I love you” first.
Buy your friend’s book today.
Go for a walk after dinner instead of waiting for the gym tomorrow.
Be impulsive in the best possible ways.
Create the life you want instead of waiting for the perfect moment.
Your time is now.
If you want to change your life, it starts with you. You can wait, or you can create… Be brave.
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