Facilitation and enablement is deeply and dangerously embedded into our culture
The “hear no evil, speak no evil and see no evil” found in bystander syndrome is endemic and should no longer go without consequences
The spate of sexual harassment exposes, accusations and charges of powerful male leaders in all spheres, has left many reeling. But what is apparent is that surrounding these perpetrators were legions of enablers. These individuals and/or organisations were all complicit in facilitating, and thereby perpetuating a culture, where these activities are permissible and accepted. Bystander syndrome has been a hallmark of all the cases and it’s time that we stepped back and critically evaluated the impact of this phenomenon and come up with some solutions. Quickly.
So although some of these men have been outed and some held accountable, there is need for more serious work to start.
Bystander Syndrome central to two recent scandals
Presidents Club scandal
In the U.K the fallout from the scandal of the Presidents Club dinner is still reverberating. Attended by Britain’s rich and powerful male elite, the guests are leaders in finance, global trade and big business. Women still play a relatively minor role in these activities but even if they did they would have been excluded from the invitation. The exposure has generated heated discussion from both sides of the divide. If women work an event where they are required to wear skimpy clothes and matching lingerie, sign an NDA, relinquish their phones they should have known that something dodgy was on the programme say some. Others add that in the moral uproar the women have been infantalised, they could have exercised agency and left. But caught in a financial trap many women feel they have to endure such treatment or lose their jobs. One hostess told the Independent:
Agencies supply hostesses, hotels provide a venue and celebrities act as comperes. The organisation itself and the participants all willingly facilitated and were complicit in bystander syndrome of this abuse. This dinner was described by a host for the evening early on in the proceedings as “the most un PC event of the year.” Recently appointed U.K. government children and families minister Zahawi reported feeling uncomfortable and left early, after only an hour a half of the event. Of course these people knew. But the failure can’t be attributed to one person or organisation. All parties were complicit.
In what is a callous and transactional abuse of women and there have already been consequences. David Walliams, hailed as the new Roald Dahl of children’s books, another host for the evening has seen the withdrawal of his book from three independent book shops. David Mellor a the joint chairmen of the President’s Club Charity Dinner, stepped down both as a director and as chair of the apprenticeships delivery board. The Presidents Club itself has closed rather than admit responsibility and commit to reform.
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Larry Nassar scandal
The impact of bystander syndrome was nowhere more evident than in the recent sentencing of Larry Nassar the doctor of the U.S gymnastics team. The guilty medical practitioner will spend the rest of his life in prison. But there is no doubt that there were individuals and institutions that enabled these acts of serial abuse for which are being held accountable. Many of the key players including the U.S. Gymnastics Board and Michigan State officers have resigned. The question remains is that enough? Legal action may not be possible in this case for complex legal technicalities. But the fact remains that 150 women were failed by a lack of due diligence and without the persistence of investigative journalists harnessing public opinion, then it is highly likely that Nassar would still be in post. The resignations of those officials only took place after Nassar was sentenced.
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“Hear no evil, speak no evil and see no evil” has to stop
Until there are serious, impactful and lasting consequences for any party involved in bystander syndrome we continue to protect the perpetrators and perpetuate the culture they operate in. Nothing much will change. At the intersection of where power and money change hands, women will continue to be loose change and pawns in what to many is a “boys will be boys” game. Let’s be clear. Bystander syndrome is a gender neutral activity, but more than ever we need male allies to get out of “hear no evil, speak no evil and see no evil” mode and address what Justin Baldoni describes as “toxic masculinity”
All women can do is vote – and with their wallets too.